My answer to the question “Is there Hope after Therapy?” is a resounding YES! How I came to ask this question and how I came to answer it in this way comprises the story of my life journey.
My name is Mary Detweiler. I am a believer in Jesus Christ and I am an Adult Child of a Dysfunctional Family. Though my parents were together, they were each broken individuals with many hurts, habits and hang-ups. That’s what made the family dysfunctional, and that’s what resulted in my growing up wounded. None of the wounds I incurred growing up were physical. I was not abused physically or sexually. The wounds were emotional. Though my home was almost always filled with people and activity, I grew up feeling isolated, alone and disconnected from everyone. I was empty inside and I believed I had no inherent worth or value. Since I had no idea of how to get the acceptance, value and love that I craved I tried to get them in very unhealthy ways which only led to me feeling even more empty and worthless.
When I left my family and struck out on my own in my early 20’s I left with many hurts, habits and hang-ups of my own, most of which I was unaware of. A major focus of my adult life has been becoming aware of, recovering from and healing the wounds of my childhood.
When I was a senior in high school (several decades ago) I took psychology. It grabbed hold of me right away and didn’t let go. Learning that there were reasons that people did what they did and felt what they felt was fascinating to me. I went to college where I earned a B.A. in Psychology and then on to graduate school where I earned a Masters Degree in Clinical Social Work, MSW. I started working as a psychotherapist. At the same time that I was working as a psychotherapist I was in therapy myself as a client. Learning what made me tick in my own therapy and helping others figure out what made them tick in my professional work was endlessly fascinating to me.
Through therapy I learned to make healthier choices, exhibit healthier behaviors, and engage in healthier relationships. In spite of all these positive changes, however, an internal emptiness and discontent remained. Though I identified and connected to the wounds I had incurred during childhood, those wounds did not heal.
In 2003 I stumbled upon a Christ-centered recovery program called Celebrate Recovery. I worked the Celebrate Recovery program and have continued to be involved with Celebrate Recovery ever since. It was through working this program that my childhood wounds were finally healed, not coped with but healed.
I recently wrote a book about how Celebrate Recovery helped me. The title of the book is When Therapy Isn’t Enough, How to fill the holes counseling doesn’t fill. I self published it through Partnership Publications, a division of Dove Christian Fellowship International. The book is accompanied by a CD titled Songs of Healing.
I created this blog as a way of getting the word about my book out into the world. I am new to blogging and, as I am technologically impaired, I am way outside my comfort zone doing this. I’m willing to tolerate this discomfort, however, because I very much want the world to know about the healing that is available through working a Christ-centered recovery program. This seems like a good channel to get the word out (at least I’ve been told that) so, here I am.
I am now taking another step outside my comfort zone by beginning to link to other blogs (which I’m not even sure I’m doing right). Please accept this link in the spirit that it is meant and, if you feel so moved, check out my blog and, if you feel moved even further, consider responding to me.