My name is Mary Detweiler. I am an author.
My writing is rooted in my life. When Therapy Isn’t Enough chronicles the road I traveled to heal the emotional wounds I was carrying around inside me from having grown up in an alcoholic family. When Religion Isn’t Enough chronicles my spiritual journey from a legalistic, works-oriented religion to a personal relationship with God through Christ. When the Glass Ceiling is Stained describes the obstacles I encountered when I tried to exercise the spiritual gift of leadership I had been given. When Doing Isn’t Enough focuses on times in my life that God called me to wait on Him. I write in the hope that others will benefit from my life experiences and the lessons I learned from them.
I grew up in an Irish Catholic family with an alcoholic father. When I left my family and struck out on my own in my early 20’s I left with many hurts, habits and hang-ups, most of which I was unaware of. A major focus of my adult life has been becoming aware of, recovering from and healing the wounds of my childhood. That journey has been long. It has also been painful, frustrating, scary, exciting and wonderful. Along the way I have met some awesome and courageous people who have inspired me and helped me. I am truly grateful for each and every one of them.
My journey is not over. I continue to be a work in process. I am, however, at a place where I feel peace and joy, even amidst life’s storms. The wonderful thing now is that my inner peace does not increase or decrease according to the situations and circumstances I find myself in. It is constant and stable because it is rooted in my personal relationship with God. My life now, though it is not always pleasant or fun or easy, is exciting because it is goal directed and “purpose driven” (to use Rick Warren’s phrase). My goal and purpose is to constantly seek to understand God’s will for my life, day to day and season by season, and to do my utmost to align myself with His will for me. That’s where the joy is!
In 1981 I received an MSW (Masters in Social Work) from Simmons College in Boston. For the next 27 years I worked on and off as a mental health professional in both inpatient and outpatient mental health settings. The off times were due to relocations (due to marrying a man who works in the corporate world) and to having babies. In 2003 I stumbled on Celebrate Recovery, a Christ-centered recovery program, and was immediately hooked. I knew that I knew that I knew that this is where I belonged. In 2005 I began writing a book about how Celebrate Recovery has helped me. I self-published it in 2008 due to being unable to get a publishing company to take a risk on me, an unknown author. In 2008 I also walked away from my career as a mental health professional and threw myself completely into Christ-centered recovery.
Once my first book (When Therapy Isn’t Enough, How to Fill the Holes Counseling Doesn’t Fill) was self-published I started working on a second book and I continued to send query letters to publishing companies. After accumulating a LARGE pile of rejection letters I received an acceptance letter from Tate Publishing Company. They offered me a contract to publish the book I had self-published and another contract to publish the book I was working on (When Religion Isn’t Enough, Embracing the Gift of Relationship). When Therapy Isn’t Enough was released in Spring 2011. When Religion Isn’t Enough was released in Spring 2012. My third book (When the Glass Ceiling is Stained, Who’s the Architect) was released in April, 2014. When Doing Isn’t Enough is currently available from tatepublishing.com. After March 3rd it will also be available from amazon.com & barnesandnoble.com