My name is Mary Detweiler. I am an author of non-fiction Christian books.

My writing is rooted in my life. I grew up in an Irish Catholic family with an alcoholic father. When I left my family and struck out on my own in my early 20’s I left with many hurts, habits and hang-ups, most of which I was unaware of. A major focus of my adult life has been becoming aware of, recovering from and healing the wounds of my childhood. That journey has been long. It has also been painful, frustrating, scary, exciting and wonderful. Along the way I have met some awesome and courageous people who have inspired me and helped me. I am truly grateful for each and every one of them.

When I was a senior in high school I took a psychology course. I became fascinated by the concept that there are reasons why people do what they do and feel what they feel. This course was the beginning of a lifelong desire to understand what makes people tick. This eventually morphed into a desire to help people live healthy, fulfilling lives emotionally and relationally. I subsequently earned a BA in Psychology from Ramapo College of New Jersey in 1976. In 1981 I received an MSW (Masters in Social Work) from Simmons College in Boston. For the next 27 years I worked on and off as a mental health professional in both inpatient and outpatient mental health settings. The off times were due to relocations (due to marrying a man who works in the corporate world) and to having babies. Throughout my career as a psychotherapist I was frequently a client in therapy as well.

In 2003 I stumbled on Celebrate Recovery, a Christ-centered 12 Step recovery program, and was immediately hooked. I knew that I knew that I knew this is where I belonged. I subsequently served as a leader in CR while simultaneously working the program as a participant.

In 2005 God called me to write a book about Celebrate Recovery. Thus began my writing career.

In 2008 I worked with a publishing company to self-publish When Therapy Isn’t Enough and walked away from my career as a mental health professional. I then threw myself completely into Christ-centered recovery. I also wrote another book, When Religion Isn’t Enough, which discusses the difference between having religion and having a personal relationship with God. My third book, When the Glass Ceiling is Stained, grew out of the very painful experience of being removed from leadership of the Celebrate Recovery ministry by the pastors and some other leaders in my church. Though I was no longer welcome at that Celebrate Recovery ministry, I attended, and served in, Celebrate Recovery ministries in other churches.

In 2013 I walked away from Celebrate Recovery and began a period of waiting on God to reveal to me what he wanted me to do next (book #4, When Doing Isn’t Enough).

In 2014 God lit a fire in my heart to help his daughters be set free from belief systems and practices that reinforce the inequality of the sexes (Book #5, When Going with the Flow Isn’t Enough). I am living this new passion by swimming upstream against gender inequality wherever I see it.

Then, as often happens, an unexpected life curve ball came at me. The company that published my first four books, Tate Publishing Company, went out of business. Before totally shutting down, they offered to sell print-ready copies of author’s manuscripts to the authors. I purchased a print ready copy of When Doing Isn’t Enough and had this published and re-released by Credo House Publishers. I did not publish print-ready copies of the other three manuscripts because of my intention to combine two of them into one, and because the third manuscript, When the Glass Ceiling is Stained, had already been incorporated into WHEN GOING WITH THE FLOW ISN’T ENOUGH, swim upstream which had recently been published by Credo House Publishers. I am currently working on a new manuscript which incorporates both When Therapy Isn’t Enough and When Religion Isn’t Enough.

My life, though it is not always pleasant or fun or easy, is exciting because it is goal directed and “purpose driven” (to use Rick Warren’s phrase).  My goal and purpose is to continually seek to understand God’s will for my life, day to day and season by season, and to do my utmost to align myself with His will for me. That’s where the joy is!



5 Responses to “About”

  1. Bro. Billy Says:

    Thanks for adding me to your blogroll. I consider it an honor. I trust that in someway the Lord used it to touch you and I thank you for passing it on.

    I read your testimony and pray that God will continue to work mightily in your life. I have lifted up your name in prayer and know that He will guide and direct in your life. Your step outside your comfort zone demonstrates your desire to grow and follow the Lord’s leading.

    Thou wilt shew me the path of life; in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore. – Psalm 16:11

  2. Thank you Billy. Your comment was encouraging and inspirational to me. Thank you for lifting me up in prayer. I would appreciate it if you would continue to do that.


  3. kathryneann Says:

    Mary, I am encouraged by your perseverence in submitting query letters, despite the rejections. It is always heartening to read another authors success tale. Blessings to you as you write and lead others to wholeness in Christ.

  4. “A major focus of my adult life has been becoming aware of, recovering from and healing the wounds of my childhood. That journey has been long. It has also been painful, frustrating, scary, exciting and wonderful.” I like this. And this is, in large part, my current focus. It is a difficult journey, but so very, very worth it!

  5. Thank you for your writing. You have a great way of expressing inspiration. I am also a writer. Your tenacity gives me hope. I would love your advice on my website.

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