If you are having difficulty waiting for the coronavirus pandemic to be over, you might find When Doing Isn’t Enough helpful.

Excerpt: “Don’t just do something. Stand there!” As a task-oriented individual who has historically functioned as an overachiever, I had great difficulty wrapping my mind around this concept. `Just being and not doing went against my grain on a very deep level…while we’re waiting there are many choices we need to make…we can choose to sink into despair or we can choose to wait in expectant hope. We can choose to be patient (regardless of how we feel) or we can choose to be impatient and irritable and drive ourselves and people around us crazy.


I just finished reading From the Ground Up by Howard Schultz. It was excellent. I highly recommend it. Excerpt:

“…the misplaced priorities of President Trump and his administration do not represent the priorities of the majority of Americans. And while there are heroes who hold office, members of both parties, Democrats and Republicans, have been complicit in the fracturing of trust that has plagued our political system for years now…the prejudice, inequality, and broken systems that do exist are wrong and dangerous. As Americans, they anger and shame so many of us…We must see beyond what is in front of us. We must reimagine the promise of America. How? By using empathy to try to understand, raising our voices to condemn darkness, and casting our votes to choose the kind of leadership we want our grandchildren to grow up with.”

“… a great nation is a compassionate nation. … America has not met its obligations and its responsibilities to the poor. … One day we will have to stand before the God of history, and we will talk in terms of things we’ve done. Yes, we will be able to say we’ve built gargantuan bridges to span the seas. We built gigantic buildings to kiss the skies. Yes, we made our submarines to penetrate oceanic depths. We brought into being many other things with our scientific and technological power. It seems that I can hear the God of history saying, ‘That was not enough! But I was hungry and ye fed me not. I was naked, and ye clothed me not. I was devoid of a decent sanitary house to live in, and ye provided no shelter for me.’” Martin Luther King, Jr. Sunday, March 31, 1968 at the National Cathedral, Washington D.C.

I’m de-Christmasing the house. As much as I love Christmas (and believe me I do LOVE Christmas), I am looking forward to putting the busyness of the holidays behind me and returning to my regular routine. Even though all the outside trappings of Christmas will no longer be visible, I hope the spirit of Christmas will be visible all year long through my regular routine. How? You might ask, well …

As we know, Christmas is really about celebrating the birth of God’s Son, the long awaited Messiah, Jesus Christ. God sent His Son to bring light to a dark world. We celebrate His birthday one day a year on Christmas Day. Those of us who are Christ followers, however, can make Christmas last all 365 days per year. How?

Individuals who have experienced spiritual rebirth carry God’s Spirit, His light, inside us. That light comes with marching orders. We are to let His light shine in us and through us so we can light up a dark world. We allow God’s light to shine through us when we choose to love/give regardless of how we feel. Real love is a verb. It is a choice. It is selfless. It is choosing to do something for someone else regardless of the cost to self. It is not a feeling. It is an action. It is this love that brings light to a dark world. When we do that Christmas can last 365 days a year.

Chris Rice sings about this in his song Go Light your World. Here’s the link:

As I have journeyed through life I have had different purposes for different seasons of my life.

When I was a senior in high school I took a psychology course. I was fascinated by the concept that there are reasons why people do what they do and feel what they feel. This course was the beginning of a lifelong desire to understand what makes people tick. I subsequently majored in psychology in college, went to graduate school where I earned a master’s degree in clinical social work, and embarked on a career as a psychotherapist. I also engaged in therapy myself as a client to understand what made me tick.

The desire to understand what makes people tick grew into a passion for helping people live healthy, happy lives emotionally and relationally. When God called me to lead a Celebrate Recovery ministry in August 2003, I was given another avenue through which to help people heal the hurts, habits, and hang-ups which impeded them from living the lives they were created to live.

In July 2014 God narrowed this passion to focus on women. He lit a fire in my heart to help his daughters be set free from the belief systems and practices that tell them they are second-class citizens, and stop them from being who God created them to be. I put form to this passion and calling by writing When Going with the Flow Isn’t Enough, Swim Upstream. In this book I focus on how the Christian Church has contributed to maintaining gender inequality in the United States. I hope that the men and women who read it will be encouraged to swim upstream against gender inequality wherever they either see it happening to others or experience it themselves. I finished this manuscript about one month ago. The publishing process will begin in January.

I don’t know what else God may want me to do. I don’t need to know right now. I just need to keep putting one foot in front of the other, trusting that he will let me know what he wants me to do. “For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven” (Ecclesiastes 3:1).

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Please listen to Michelle Obama’s speech in its entirety, regardless of what party you belong to and/or which candidate you support.

Hillary Clinton‘s live video.

My creative juices are FINALLY flowing after many months of them being dried up. I have been immersing myself in the writing of my new manuscript which will be titled When Going with the Flow Isn’t Enough, Swim Upstream.

Excerpt from Introduction:

“Though I realize gender inequality is global, this book is specifically about gender inequality in the United States and the role the Christian Church has played in maintaining this inequality. I also realize that the United States is light years ahead of some other countries re: gender equality and I would like to take this opportunity to express my deep gratitude and appreciation for the strides that have been made in the U.S., and to applaud the courage and perseverance of the many men and women who swam upstream to make this happen.

Having said that, I also realize that we still have a way to go to achieve full gender equality in the United States. I believe that if sexism and racism are to truly come to an end people need to be color blind and gender blind, seeing each other as equal, different yet equal. Imposing affirmative action practices and equal pay for equal work legislation will not result in gender equality. Civil rights legislation taught us that. Don’t get me wrong, I am not opposed to affirmative action practices and equal pay for equal work legislation. I think both are good things. I believe, however, that lasting change begins on the inside. Our thoughts, feelings, attitudes and values change first. Then, our behavior changes to line up with the internal changes. Jesus Christ made this same point to a group of Pharisees when he said “A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart” (Matthew 12:35).

I am writing this book in the hope that the words you will read will light a fire in your heart, making it difficult, if not impossible, for you to stand idly by as long as any members of the human race are treated as inferior second class citizens.”

I recently started re-reading Jim Wallis’s book God’s Politics. I read it 8 years ago and decided to pick it up again due to the inundation of presidential campaign news.

The following excerpt jumped out at me earlier today. What follows is a mixture of my paraphrasing and direct quotes.

Following the passage of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 Martin Luther King Jr told President Johnson that “the next step on the road to freedom was a voting rights act, without which black Americans in the South would never be able to really change their communities. “ Johnson told King that it would be five to ten years before that law could be passed.

“But Martin Luther King Jr was not one to simply complain, withdraw, or give up. King and the Southern Christian Leadership Conference (SCLC) began organizing in a sleepy little town nobody had ever heard of, Selma Alabama. On one fateful day, SCLC leaders marched right across the Edmond Pettus Bridge, alongside the people of Selma, to face the notorious Sheriff Jim Clark and his virtual army of angry white police. On what would be called Bloody Sunday, a young man named John Lewis was beaten almost to death, and many others were injured or jailed.”

“Two weeks later, in response to that brutal event, hundreds of clergy from all across the nation and from every denomination came to Selma and joined in the Selma to Montgomery march…after the historic Selma to Montgomery march for freedom, it took only five months, not five years or ten, to pass a new voting rights act: the Voting Rights Act of 1965.”

Who was wrong in this event? Were the people trying to right a perceived wrong the problem or were the people who used violence to maintain the status quo the problem?

I recently stumbled across this and thought it was worth sharing.

A Thanksgiving Prayer
by Samuel F. Pugh

Oh, God, when I have food help me to remember the hungry;
When I have work help me to remember the jobless;
When I have a warm home help me to remember the homeless;
When I am without pain help me to remember those who suffer;
And remembering, help me to destroy my complacency and bestir my compassion.
Make me concerned enough to help, by word and deed,
those who cry out for what we take for granted.

As I continue to travel through life interacting with a variety of people I am continually reminded that integrity seems to be in short supply. What is integrity? Integrity is simply honesty. Does one’s talk match one’s walk? Does one say what one means, and mean what one says? Does one convey an accurate picture of one’s situation or does one hide it within a concoction of smoke and mirrors?

On March 14, 2015 I posted an article titled helping vs. enabling. A situation I encountered over the week-end once again brought to my mind the difference between helping and enabling. In that article I defined helping as doing something for someone that he or she is unable to do for themselves, and defined enabling as shielding someone from the consequences of his or her actions or choices.

Sometimes when we want to help someone the action that we take to help him or her is in actuality enabling them to continue a dysfunctional behavior or a dishonest lifestyle.

If you are not sure whether you are helping or enabling someone ask yourself these questions:

1. Am I doing something I really don’t want to do, i.e. saying yes when I want to say no?
2. Am I doing something for someone that he/she is capable of doing and should be doing for him or herself?
3. Am I meeting people’s needs without being asked?
4. Am I speaking for another person?
5. Am I solving people’s problems for them?
6. Am I suffering the consequences of someone else’s choices or actions?
7. Am I not asking for what I want, need and desire?
8. Am I consistently giving more than I receive in a particular relationship?
9. Am I shielding someone from the reality of his or her situation by contributing smoke and mirrors?

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