With the coronavirus numbers going up instead of down, it is getting more difficult to wait for this pandemic to be over. I hope some of you find the following excerpt from When Doing Isn’t Enough helpful.

“We have all experienced times of waiting in our lives. We may not have liked it or chosen it; however, we have experienced it. We may have tolerated it or hated it or waited in anger or waited in fear or waited in expectancy. We may have decided to put the time to good use like reading a book or working on a laptop while in a waiting room or we may have paced or we may have slept. We may have smoked cigarettes or drank coffee or did any combination of any of these or any other of a multitude of additional coping mechanisms. However we have chosen to wait though, we have waited.”

Link: https://www.amazon.com/When-Doing-Enough-Waiting-Plenty/dp/1625860838/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1508523850&sr=8-3&keywords=books+by+mary+detweiler

When will sexism and racism end?

Though tremendous legislative strides have been made regarding both racial and gender equality in the United States, it is sad but true to acknowledge that racism and sexism still exist. They exist because “isms” are not legal conditions, they are heart conditions and legislation does not change hearts. Civil rights legislation taught us that. I believe that if sexism and racism are to truly come to an end, hearts need to change in a way that leaves people color-blind and gender-blind, seeing each other as equal–different yet equal. (Excerpt, When Going with the Flow Isn’t Enough)

Link: https://www.amazon.com/When-Going-Flow-Enough-Upstream/dp/1625860714/

Do you know what city is the birthplace of women’s rights? No? Well, it’s Seneca Falls, NY.

I visited Seneca Falls the other day while I was on vacation in the Finger Lakes region of New York. It was very cool to be where some of the events I wrote about in When Going with the Flow Isn’t Enough actually took place.

Excerpt: “In 1848 Elizabeth Stanton emerged as a women’s rights leader. She, along with a handful of other women, organized the Seneca Falls Convention which was held that year in Seneca Falls, New York. Over three hundred people attended. Prior to the convention, Elizabeth wrote a Declaration of Sentiments, which she modeled on the Declaration of Independence. In that document she stated that men and women are created equal and proposed, among other things, a resolution demanding voting rights for women. She read her declaration at the convention. The final resolutions, including female suffrage, were passed.”

If you’re interested in reading When Going with the Flow Isn’t Enough, here’s the link: https://www.amazon.com/When-Going-Flow-Enough-Upstream/dp/1625860714/


Excerpt, When Success Isn’t Enough: God’s standards and expectations contradict and challenge the commonly accepted standards and values of the world. They turn the world’s standards upside down and inside out…In addition, the world’s currency has no value in God’s economy.

Link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/162586177X?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860


This post was written two years ago, addendum added today.

My writing journey began in 2005 when I started to write a book about how Celebrate Recovery had helped me overcome multiple hurts, habits and hang-ups I struggled with as a result of having grown up in an unhealthy family. The result was When Therapy Isn’t Enough, published in 2008 by House to House Publications and in 2011 by Tate Publishing Company.

My second book, When Religion Isn’t Enough, was published in 2012 by Tate. It chronicles my journey from religion to relationship, explaining the difference between having religion and having a personal relationship with God.

I then wrote When the Glass Ceiling is Stained. This book was birthed in an experience I had in which I was removed from a church leadership position I firmly believed God had called me to. It discusses the differences between ordination and anointing, as well as the differences between leading and managing. I decided to share this experience and the lessons I learned from it in the hope that other women would benefit from it.

I served in leadership in various Celebrate Recovery ministries for 10 years. In 2013 I had both of my knees replaced (one in June and one in October) and stepped out of the Celebrate Recovery leadership role I was serving in at that time, believing that this season of my life had come to an end. Throughout the following winter (as my knees were healing) I waited on God to let me know what he wanted me to do next and wrote When Doing Isn’t Enough, published by Tate in 2015.

God did indeed let me know what He wanted me to do next. In July 2014 He lit a fire in my heart to help his daughters be set free from belief systems and practices which reinforce the inequality of the sexes. In response to that fire being lit I wrote When Going with the Flow Isn’t Enough, incorporating much of Glass Ceiling into it.

As I worked with Tate Publishing Company during the publishing process of Doing, I saw a number of red flags which made me uneasy about continuing my relationship with them. Therefore, as I was writing Going with the Flow, I began to look for another publishing company and found Credo House Publishers. Credo published Going with the Flow in 2017.

Also in 2017 Tate Publishing Company went bankrupt. Before they went out of business, they offered to sell a print ready file of each of the author’s manuscripts to the author for a small fee. I purchased the print ready file for Doing and had Credo re-publish it. Glass Ceiling had already been incorporated into Going with the Flow, AND, I decided to write one new manuscript from my first two, Therapy and Religion. Though the new book is titled When Therapy Isn’t Enough, it is very different (and better if I do say so myself) than the earlier book of the same name.

The writing and publishing journey has been nothing like I expected it to be. It has taken more perseverance, risk taking, and financial resources than I imagined, AND I am not at the end of this journey. I am committed to keep writing, regardless of the cost, until everything God wants me to write is written and published.

ADDENDUM: My journey clearly has not ended. My newest book, When Success Isn’t Enough, was released a few weeks ago. In it I discuss the similarities and differences between living a successful life and living a purposeful life.







My new book, When Success Isn’t Enough purpose is plenty, is now available as a print book and as an Ebook. Excerpt: “Purpose is radically different from success. The most significant difference is the starting point. When developing our definition of success, the starting point is ourselves. When attempting to discern our purpose, the starting point is God.”

For those of you who are interested, here’s the link:


I have recently become a fan of author Colson Whitehead. I read his two most recent books, The Underground Railroad and The Nickel Boys. Mr. Whitehead’s writing is excellent though the content is emotionally difficult to read. I particularly like the following words of Mr. Whitehead in his introduction to The Nickel Boys:

“It was the spring of 2017, and I lived in a nation divided. After the last presidential election, it was impossible to ignore the unending barrage of chaos and strife, particularly when it came to race. How to reconcile the racial progress we’ve made since my grandparents’ generation with our current regression into bitterness, discord, and rage? … In writing these boys into existence, I might give voice to my own fear and confusion but also speak, in whatever small way I can, for the real-life survivors of the Arthur G. Dozier School for Boys, my model for the Nickel Academy…Writing this book is one small way of bearing witness…”


My new book, When Success Isn’t Enough, purpose is plenty will be available as a print book and as an ebook in a few weeks. Excerpt: “This book is about the similarities and differences between living a life of success and living a life of purpose.”


Another excerpt from When Success Isn’t Enough, soon to be released.

“When I allowed God to be in the driver’s seat of my life, I experienced the peace and joy that can come only from God. When I put myself back in the driver’s seat of my life, I was looking for that peace and joy to come from human achievements and human relationships. What I received were the peace and joy that the world gives. Having experienced both scenarios, I can tell you that the peace and joy that the world gives are hollow compared to the peace and joy that God gives.”


My new book, When Success Isn’t Enough, purpose is plenty will be available in a month or so. Excerpt: “‘I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly’” (John 10:10 RSV). Jesus spoke these words after he had given sight to a man who had been born blind…The abundance that Jesus referred to is not financial or material abundance. It is an abundance of life. He wants us to live a life in which we are happy, fulfilled, energized, and passionate.